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Four years ago, I wrote a blog post titled, Preschool Lunch Ideas that compiled the wisdom of my friends into a handy list of great ideas to pack in a lunchbox. To this day, it’s my most popular blog post (by far, I think this has something to do with the fact that it comes up first in Google search results) and traffic spikes every August and September as thousands of moms search for smart ways to feed their kids when they’re no longer around to control what they put into their mouths.

And let’s just call it for what it is right here and now. We cram creative, nutritious and fun food into their lunchboxes thinking we have some control over what they eat. Wrong!

Once they enter elementary school and the teacher is no longer sitting at their table coaxing them to eat their vegetables before attacking the cookie, we lose control of the lunchbox. Every day they’re herded into a cafeteria with dozens of other wide-eyed, fidgety, eager kids who care nothing for mommy’s grand plan for them to eat the vegetables and carrots first before you have your cookie.

So, last week when my youngest started Kindergarten and I volunteered to help out in the lunchroom, I decided to update my original blog post with some practical truths. The list of foods my friends gave me in 2007 is still creative and useful for elementary school children. Here are some helpful hints to accompany it:

Pack Less!

Most kids unzip a lunchbox filled with much more than they can eat. I used to be guilty of this, too, until it all came back at the end of the day. Not only do we pack too many items, but too much of each. Remember, small kids have small tummies. Daughter tells me to pack “only three things, Mommy.” Keep it simple.

Easy Open

Make sure young children can open what you pack. Many are too shy to ask or the lunchroom may not be staffed with enough aids to help out. Next thing you know, the bell rings and they haven’t eaten!

Here’s what I was asked to open my day in the caf:

  • Bottled water (if you don’t loosen it first, they can’t)
  • Gogurts (several of these)
  • Pudding
  • Organic vegetables (two hard-to-peel plastic packages. One for the veggies, another for the dip)
  • Straw on juice box
  • Plastic packaged organic cookie
  • Crushable fruit twistable cap

Skip Dessert

While I like the idea of my kids having a treat to delight them when they open their lunchbox, I know Daughter will go straight for it and dis the sandwich and veggies. In fact, spying Mommy watched her eat the Rice Krispie Treat first and chips second that first day of school and close the lid on the carrots and turkey. So, I skip the dessert and give it to my kids after school.

In the lunchroom, I did watch some children eat their lunches first and desserts last. But most had time to only eat a bit or two of a cookie before the bell rang.

Time is Tight

In our cafeteria, each classroom or table is called up to go through the lunch line. This means that children buying items are disrupted from eating to go buy a drink or snack or even lunch. When they return, they have even less time to eat. Pack what you can to save them from going through the line.

Attention is Tighter

Whatever we pack competes with friends at the lunch table and the general mayhem of the lunchroom. A few bites might be taken amidst the fun. I try to make them count.

Choice Matters

Last Friday, I told my kids they could buy lunch since it was pizza day. Daughter bought Apple Jacks, a cheese stick, and a yogurt.

“I couldn’t read what kind of yogurt it was so I didn’t eat it. I ate the Apple Jacks and cheese stick,” she told me after school.

Clearly, she ignored the “healthy choice” options available to her. Why not? With fun foods available, she capitalized on her ability to choose for herself and went to town. I don’t blame her. I can coach her about what to buy but at the end of the day, it’s her choice.

My choices are what to pack for her when she brings lunch and what to give her at home to offset those Apple Jacks.

While Son, in second grade, eats his sandwich and veggies; last year he went straight for the dessert.

Sometimes kids grow into smart food choices. Or not. One day, I’ll lose control of that little lunchbox, too. And I’ll probably see the slight orange stain of Doritos around somebody’s lips after school.

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For five weeks this summer, five-year-old Daughter and seven-year-old Son attended day camp from 9-3:30. Everybody loved it. My kids loved the counselors, the other kids, the field trips, the water slide, popsicles, and all the games they played.

I loved the 9 to 3:30. (It’s true, I murmured Hallelujah, but only to myself and only about ten times a day.)

One added bonus was listening in on their conversations each morning and afternoon on the way to and from camp. Somehow, kids manage to take adulthood’s most serious subjects and strip them of their, well, seriousness.

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Five-year-old Daughter has been trying to grow her hair long for two years. She came out bald and then sported a bowl cut until she was three. No, I wasn’t intentionally giving her a boy’s haircut. I just snipped a little here and a little there and she looked so cute with it short that it stayed that way.

Mother-in-Law said, “When are you going to grow her hair long like a girl’s?”

Doesn’t she look girlie enough now? Okay, I guess there’s some merit to long hair. We’ll let it grow.

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Husband gave me a Kindle for my birthday last month. Yes, I’m a little behind on that, being a writer and all, but I’ve been attached to my hardcovers. Until I “got” the hook of instant gratification for any book you want. It’s a great thing.

A couple days in, five year old Daughter pulled the Kindle from me and started touching the screen. She tapped here, she tapped there. Nothing happened. She looked at me perplexed.

“It doesn’t work like that, honey. You have to push these arrows and then this button to go somewhere.”

I’d lost her on “push.”

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“Will there be trapeze?”

“Yes

“Tigers and elephants?”

“Yes.”

“High wire?”

“Sure will.”

 

Daughter sat back, satisfied.

 

I knew for sure there would be a high wire act at the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Full Throttle circus because Husband and I had checked the web site the night before. Not wanting to disappoint her as I did when I tried a lesser, much lesser show (let’s not even call it a circus), this time I hoped the greatest show on earth would exceed her expectations.

 

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See bottom of page for Exclusive Discount on Ringling Bros Circus Next Week

 

Last month, Daughter came home from preschool each day with stories of tigers, elephants, trapeze artists, monkeys and…clowns. They were studying the circus! (Don’t you wish you could go back to preschool?) She cut out and painted pictures of various animals and brought home an entire circus train filled with traveling acts.

 

Somehow, we haven’t managed to take our kids to the circus yet so I started searching for when the big show would be in town. I Googled “Ringling Bros” and found dates for May in Hartford. That was two months away and an hour away.

 

Then one afternoon when we were checking books out at the library, I noticed coupons for Picadilly Circus. Kids get in free! It was close by in Danbury, Connecticut with shows at 4 pm and 7 pm the following week. How perfect, I thought. Close by, cheap – my kids would get to see the circus! I browsed the web site and it looked….like a real circus.

 

I told the kids and we spent a week excitedly looking forward to our first circus. Thursday afternoon, we left school promptly and drove straight to Danbury to make the 4 pm show. The location listed on the web site was the Danbury Ice Arena. There weren’t any directions so I relied on my phone’s Google Maps GPS to get us there.

 

“I know how we’ll be able to find it!” Daughter exclaimed as we started out. “Just look for the big top!”

 

“Well, honey, this one isn’t in a big top.” I tried to ease her into the small circus experience. “It’s just in a regular building.”

 

Boy, was that an understatement. We drove in circles (no thanks to Google Maps), asked two groups of people on the sidewalk, and finally found the square, squat building in the middle of town. We rushed from the top of the parking garage down to the sidewalk and over to a small door in the middle of the building.

 

When we entered the small, well worn lobby, we found a line of parents and two people taking cash for tickets at a portable table. We finally got through the line, used the bathrooms, and entered the arena.

 

First, it was cold (oh yeah, ice arena). To say it was one ring would be generous. We found seats on the bleachers just as the motorcycle stunt began. Then came the clowns (two with an old car), the acrobats (not too bad), and more clowns.

 

Daughter looked around. “Where’s the trapeze?”

 

“This one doesn’t have a trapeze,” I said. “But look – there’s an elephant.”

 

We could make out an elephant-in-waiting on the other side of the arena. This scrappy large animal was our only hope of saving the circus experience.

 

I watched her face as my heart sank. It hadn’t dawned on me that by trying to deliver a circus to her, any circus, I might just spoil her grand expectations. That instead of delivering on her dreams, I’d dash them.

 

We bought cotton candy and lemonade. We broke for intermission which was basically a push to buy tickets and ride the elephant or a small group of sad ponies. Or take your photo with the motorcyclists.

 

We watched the final elephant act with two young girls standing, sitting and somersaulting on him. It was pretty cool but we were scraping for excitement in an empty barrel.

 

On the way home, I tried to pump up our experience but couldn’t escape acknowledging that we needed to see the real circus someday.

 

I revisited the Picadilly web site and confirmed that most of the pictures were of exciting and fun acts that weren’t any part of the circus we attended.

 

And then I headed straight for Ringling Bros. and Barnum and Bailey Circus Fully Charged at the XL Center in Hartford. We’re attending next Wed., May 4 at 7 pm and I know it will be worth the one hour drive to see the real deal.

 

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Let me know if you’re attending and I’ll look for you at the show!

 

And this time, we’re not telling the kids. It will be a surprise. 

 

PS Full Disclosure

One of the perks of writing a blog for three years, is that PR firms start offering you all kinds of free products. Since that’s not the type of blog I write, I usually turn them down.

 

But lately, a nice woman named Patrice has started offering me free tickets to shows at the XL Center in exchange for reviewing them. The kids don’t know this, but I’ve passed up Disney on Ice and Harlem Globetrotters. But when the circus came to town, well, let’s just say I actually approached them and said, hey, I’ve got a story to write….

 

So, yes, we’ll be guests of the XL Center next week and I’ll write up the show the next day. Hopefully after reading my experience at the podunk circus nearby, you agree it’s a good move…. HPL

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“Mom,” Son says, eating his ham, egg and cheese at the counter before school. “Did Daddy tell you the secret?”

 

“What secret, honey?”

 

I’m at the sink, running water over strawberries, lopping off their green tops and placing them in mini Tupper wares for the lunchbox.

 

“The secret about how babies are born,” he says casually.

 

I give him my full attention.

 

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Below are the top items that made my life as a mother of two young kids easier this past year.

 

1.    Care.com

 

Care.com blows away SitterCity for finding local babysitters for two reasons:

 

It has better candidates. Period. We now have two favorite sitters – one is a second grade teacher! – and several more to call on if they are busy. I was looking for local college students and Care.com serves up more.

 

It has a better interface. Each sitter’s profile includes a contact page, reviews from other parents, videos, and recorded references. There are private pages where you can store notes on various sitters and it alerts you when new sitters, who meet your criteria (e.g. must like dogs!) register in your area.

 

I paid $35 for the first month and figured I would interview a bunch of sitters, create a list to call on when needed and cancel the service. But I can stay subscribed for $10/month to contact 10 sitters and that’s an easy way to take advantage of the new sitters that register.

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What happens when a Wasp and a Jew prep for Hanukkah and Christmas all in one day? Last week Husband and I were scheduled to take latkes into Son’s first grade classroom for a Hanukkah party. Then we planned to put up the Christmas tree. At least that was the plan….

 

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Doggy Truths

I realize now that for the past six months, I should have just started a second blog titled, Doggy Truths.  Because my thoughts each day have been less about what works and doesn’t in raising the kids and more about how to raise the dog.

 

After seven months with us and at ten months of age, our Golden Retriever, Archie, is giving us a run for our money: Financially, emotionally, materially (furniture, rugs, socks, beach buckets, dish towels, napkins, did I mention socks?). Now, he’s  even acting like a toddler and the minute I get on the telephone he starts nipping at the bottom of my pants. (The squirt bottle finally stopped that. Lesson #1: Use a spray bottle of water to stop really annoying behavior!)

 

So, here encapsulated are my doggy truths, training tips, lessons learned. Since you are probably a parent if you’re reading this and may or may not have a dog; take what you will from my doggy truths for raising children.

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